How to protect your child from an internet bully
August 19, 2014
August 19, 2014
Tips to help your child deal with an internet bully
Cyberbullying is a serious concern impacting young people at alarming rates. This award-winning video educates families about this threat. Find out how to protect your children.
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Tips to discuss with your children
Don’t reply. When someone bullies you, your reaction is exactly what the bully is looking for. Your reaction gives the bully power over you.
Never retaliate. If you “get back” at the bully it only reinforces the bully’s behavior. You become a bully too. Don’t start a cycle of aggression.
Save any evidence. The only good thing about “cyber” bullying is that harassing messages are usually captured and they can be saved. Then you can show the messages to someone who can help. Make sure to save the messages even if they seem minor – just in case the messages get worse.
Talk to an adult you feel you can trust. It’s always good to talk with your parents about the situation – if you can’t – a school counselor can help you. If you are nervous about telling someone, check to see if you can report the incident anonymously at school.
Block the bully. If the bullying messages are instant messages, texts, or profile comments, do yourself a big favor. Use preferences or privacy tools to block the person. If it’s happening in a chat room, leave the chat room.
Be decent and civil- don’t stoop to the bully’s level. Even if you don’t like a person, try to be decent and don’t sink to the other person’s level. Spreading gossip and talking trash about others increases your chance of being bullied. Use the “golden rule”- treat people the way you want to be treated.
Don’t be a bully. Would you feel bad if someone harassed you? Try to imagine walking in the other person’s shoes. If you think about bullying, think for a few seconds how that person will feel. Remember- it’s a two-way street.
Don’t be a bystander- be a friend. Don’t watch or forward messages from a bully. That only empowers the bully. Let the bully know that the behavior is unacceptable – cruel abuse of fellow human beings. If you can’t stop the bully, at least try to help the victim and report the bully’s behavior.